So, as I might have referenced, I am officiating two wedding ceremonies
this summer. We're about a month away from the first and I've been
working diligently on the - for lack of a better word - script. The
groom is insistent on a unity candle. No problem. The service is
outdoors and likely to be windy, but sure. In discussions the bride has
stated that it is important that they leave the 'personal candles'
burning rather than extinguish them once the unity candle is lit.
I went in search of a ceremony that included this and the best I found online
(my book from the ULC only extinguished) mentioned states it is to show
"they still retain their individuality." This is not quite what she's
going for. So, while I struggle to write a passage (grrr. I'm so not a
writer) that encompasses the idea the whole is greater than the sum of
its parts and that it is the individuals that will be continuing to keep
said marriage/candle aglow blah blah blah (I said I wasn't a writer) I
started thinking. Thinking I wanted to ask a few feminists I know,
married and unmarried what they think of this whole deal. Did you or
would you have a unity candle ceremony? Why or why not? What would you
or did you want it to symbolize? Just trying to get the creative juices
flowing....